Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Power Of A Mother's Self Talk

I have recently meet a remarkable woman named Cherie Burton.

2004's Mrs. Utah Cherie Burton is the founder and president of Blue Rose Communications, a company devoted to helping women and girls discover their personal life missions and divine femininity.
(photo of Cherie)

I feel Cherie and I are of one heart in the attempts to reach women and youth with a message of knowing their divine worth among other things.  I look forward to working with her and getting to know her better.

Cherie posted a powerful message on her website that I want to share with you. Click here to see it.
It is titled Sobering Stats.  I have actually used some of these statistics in my own presentations before,
namely this one:

81% of 10 year-old girls are afraid of becoming fat; 78% of 18 year-old girls are unhappy with their bodies (Body Wars: Making Peace With Women’s Bodies by M. Maine, 2000)

I would like to add my own statistic I learned saying women who diet are twice as likely to have daughters with eating disorders.  (My original source was from ANRED which has closed down their site recently)
I have found a new article supporting this information and is actually titled this: Mail Online News: "Women Who Diet Are Twice As Likely To Have Daughters With Eating Disorders."  

Going back to Cherie Burton, I hope you take a minute to read her post I think you will be better for it. She closes with a neat quote that I agree with whole heatedly.

"A mother who radiates self love and acceptance actually vaccinates her daughter against low self esteem." (Naomi Wolf)

My own mother is a wonderful, selfless woman. Unfortunately I grow up with hearing her put herself down.  Often it was about her appearance or her self criticism of not being able to complete some task flawlessly. I heard "I can never do anything right." and watched her avoid photos, swimming suits, and even long sleeve shirts to hide what she thought to be an unacceptable body.

I learned to put myself down by emulating her.  

Please, as a parent don't EVER let your children hear you say anything negative about yourself.  Then go a step further and work from the inside and truly not think and feel those negative messages because you can't hid much from your children. They will pick it up. This was one of the major topics I spoke about with Dr. Paul Jenkin's radio show Live On Purpose. (click to hear interview)

I believe there is power in words and positive "self talk" or "inner dialog"  I want you to be aware of what you are saying in your self talk.  If it is hurtful to yourself, STOP that thought then replace it with listing a positive attribute about yourself. Say, "I'm beautiful, happy, good enough." or whatever it is you need to hear and want to be.  If you don't believe it at first -- do it anyway!  It works I promise!


Tamara Hart Heiner said...

such good words, Haley. So interesting how we think of self-esteem as only benefiting us, but it benefits much more than that.

Haley Hatch Freeman said...

Thanks for you comment Tamara, yeah it is interesting how our self-esteem effects others.

Brenda said...

Wow...those are scary stats regarding 10 year olds. My 7 year old makes me nervous with the way she talks about weight...she doesn't think she is overweight but is very aware that she doesn't want to be. It doesn't help that a little boy at school called her fat all during kindergarten. So much to worry about as a parent. Thanks for the great information! I especially love the quote about Mothers.