Sunday, December 28, 2008

Your Divine Worth

This week I want you to sincerely pray to Heavenly Father to know and feel your worth. Pray that you will know your value in his sight. Pray to feel his love. Pray that you will know your divine worth and your unique purpose as his child on Earth. Add this to all your prayers for a week and truly allow yourself to feel it and feel worthy to feel it.

You may want to start by reading the quote I have on my header.

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Body Parts

I know this exercise might sound strange but if you do all the exercises I post you will see a change in the way you think and feel about yourself.

Here is this weeks challenge:

Take an inventory of your body. Make a list of the parts you like and the parts you do not like. Identify why you like the parts that you do. Then identify why you do not like some other parts.

You may find some powerful emotions associated with various parts of your body.

You may have had some painful or humiliating experiences that you have tried to forget.

Close your eyes and visualize that part in your mind. Tell that part that you forgive it for not being perfect . Tell it that you will be more accepting of it from now on. Send it your love and acceptance.

(exercise from: Enlightened Eating by Rebecca Ruggles Radcliffe)

Mall Signing

It was a great day to catch a lot of people in the mall this Saturday since it was the last Saturday before Christmas. I enjoyed talking to and meeting all the people I did. I heard a lot of stories of families effected by eating disorders whether it was their friend, daughter, or even mother.

I hope this Christmas when people open their present (my book) they don't only have a gift of a fascinating read, but of something that might change and help their lives.

Monday, December 15, 2008

Mall Book Signing

I'm inviting you to come meet me and get a signed copy of
A Future for Tomorrow
this Sat. Dec 20th at
Provo Towne Centre Mall.
I will be doing a book signing
starting at 4:00 pm
and going until at least 6:00 pm in front of
Walden Book's
which is on the top floor of the mall .

Hope to see you there!

No More Victim Consciousness

"When we feel like victims of circumstance, we find ourselves feeling powerless, helpless, or hopeless. Stripped of our power psychologically, we sit back and wait for someone else to bail us out or change things for the better." Rebecca Ruggles Radcliffe Author of Enlightened Eating.

Often eating disorders are caused by the person trying to gain a sense of control. Eating is something you have completely control over, no one can make you eat. Anorexia is a complex disease that usually has many factors combined to produce the symptom of starving yourself. Often one of the major triggers is enduring some type of traumatic experience where they feel they did not have control.

The exercise I have chosen this week is to help you gain back your self of power and stop playing the victim.

Take out your journal or whatever and fill in as many answers to each of the following statements as possible:

If __________________ hadn't happened, I would not be able to _____________.

If __________________ hadn't happened, I would not have done _____________.

I am stronger because ____________________________________ ___.

I am who I am today because __________________________________.

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Young Women's Activity

I was honored to be invited to do a presentation for a young women group. They were each given my book and after my talk were able to bring their books up for me to sign to them individually. It was more of a relaxed atmosphere oppose to the firesides I've done so I was excited to have more feed back and leave the time open for questions. I hope something I said touched one of them. I truly delight in working with the youth and have a love for them.

I passed out an anonymous survey with four questions:

Do you like the way you look?

Are you on a diet?

Have you ever dieted before?

Does your mom or older sibling diet?

The reason I ask about their mother or sibling, especially on older sister, because statistics show that when a mother diets the daughter is 20% more likely to diet and/or have an eating disorder. The next highest factor after having a mom who diets is if they have a sibling who does.
I found the same results. I was surprised that every paper I got that said they did not like the way they look and yes they have dieted, 100% said yes to a mother dieting. 100%!

Every paper that said no, they haven't dieted and yes they liked the way they looked was 100% on no, their mother did not diet. (However one did answer this way but she did have a dad on a diet. It shows us it is mothers who are the most powerful role model for their daughters)

This tells us what a powerful example we show our daughters. I remember thinking "if "so and so" is on a diet and if my mom is on a diet then I guess I should too."

I was happy to see that the majority of the girls did say they liked the way they looked and did not diet, way to go!

I have more pictures of me with the girls but since this is a public site I will only post this picture:

Thank you ladies for inviting me to speak to you, it was a pleasure!

Sunday, December 7, 2008

Love Letter

This week's challenge is to write a love letter to yourself. Write the positive things about yourself, why you're beautiful, why your unique, and why you are worthy of being loved.
This is a great activity for a youth group, or your own teen or pre-teen. If you do it for an activity have them seal the letters in envelops with their mailing addresses on them. You mail their letters back to them and tell them to read it every day for a week, and keep it where they can read it when they are feeling down.

Thursday, December 4, 2008

A Myth of the Perfect Book

This was written and posted on Tristi Pinkston's blog a while ago and it touched me. I feel these words apply to my own book. I wanted to share it with all of you.
Tristi is a wonderful writer and Author of three published books and one coming out this spring. This is her post:

Wednesday, September 10, 2008
The Myth of the Perfect Book

I have decided there's no such thing as writing the perfect book.

We might write books that are funny and uplifting, dramatic and thought-provoking, or spiritual and enlightening. We might write books that take us to the edges of our strength and force us to push a little harder, to transcend everything we thought we were capable of, to create a new limit to break later on. We might cry as we outline. We might tremble as we write. We can sit back at the end and heave a great sigh and feel that we truly have done what we set out to do . . . and yet, the book is still not perfect.

There will always be typos. There will always be places where we could have shown when we told. There will always be times when we confuse a character's name or forget to hide the key under the mat, thereby making the reader wonder how the hero got in. There will always be something to criticize, regardless of how good the book is.

But that doesn't mean we stop writing.

It means we continue to push ourselves. We continue to stretch ourselves, finding our wings, exploring, expanding, striving. We never, ever give up. But we do it with the knowledge that someone, somewhere, is going to find something wrong with our book.

And that's okay.

It means we're human.

And it means we'll take what we learned from the experience and be grateful for it. We'll grow, we'll hone our skills, and we'll progress. A writer who refuses to learn, who refuses to stretch, will never truly reach the heights he otherwise could. It's the bumps we encounter along the way that knock off our rough spots.

I've had a lot of bumps.

But I'm grateful for them.

I can fly higher now than I ever could before.

Thank you Tristi for these words!