Saturday, August 4, 2012

My Story Featured in The Daily Herald

Amongst the ciaos I realized I didn't post a link on my blog to the article that was written about me and my book.  Here is the link:  Eagle Mountain Mother Speaks Out On Anorexia


The article actually came out a day earlier than I was told, but luckily I was able to still get my hands on a copy. It was fun seeing how the interviewer added my family's perspective in the article.  I think it is the first reporter that interviewed my parents as well as myself.

The reporter for this article ended up having me speak at her Stake Day Camp for 11 year old girls.  I presented for them last week and enjoyed sharing my message with those sweet daughters of God. I always hope and pray that something I say will have a lasting and positive effect on their lives.

Love it! Replacing the Apology By Karen Eddington

Life as been crazy like I mentioned in my last post, but now things are amazing in our new town and new home! I can't believe this journey has finally found us moved in and almost all unpacked and home decorated.  I'm awe stuck that from just a few quick but powerful promptings we have been lead to such a beautiful outcome. Thanks for all your support and checking in on our family throughout this transition.

Anyway, I want to share another powerful message from my friend Karen Eddington. She was on Studio 5 again with a message worth applying in our lives.
Here's the link to the show  Replacing the Apology  (

Here's three great tips she shared:

Saying "sorry" too often could be a sign of insecurity. Find out how to replace the apology and appear confident and secure.

At a recent conference a woman asked, "What is the most common struggle you see women face?" The answer is: dealing with inadequacy. So many people don't feel good enough.
One way to overcome our inadequacy is in how we apologize to people. There are times common courtesy is replaced with our feelings of insecurity. Think about the times we casually use the words "I'm sorry" and the reason you say it. Phrases like, "I'm sorry to bother you." "I'm sorry I haven't gotten back with you sooner." "I'm sorry-- you're in my way." "Sorry I can't make it." There are times we use this phrase, not out of being polite, but because we incorrectly assume people are going to think badly of us. By apologizing, we feel like we're creating a back-up plan to defend ourselves IF we are not good enough. People respond to confidence better than doubt. Here are three ways you can replace your apology. 1. "Sorry for the mess":
Picture toys on the floor, mail scattered on the counter, and dishes left in the kitchen skin. Suddenly, the doorbell rings and you have unexpected company. You may feel that if one thing is out of place at home, it automatically means you're a bad mother or a bad homemaker. When you answer the door, you may immediately feel a need to apologize for the state of your home, that your home is not good enough, that people are going to think badly of you. Recognize the false assumptions you are making and consciously make an effort to replace your doubt filled apology with confidence. Celebrate the day you can welcome people to your home even if you have crayon marks on the wall and laundry piling in the corner. Stop apologizing start welcoming.

Replace the apology with "Welcome to my home"

2. "Sorry I'm not very good"
You have just been asked to stand in front of a group of people and talk. Your heart may pound. Your mind races through what to say. One of the first phrases you express is, "I'm sorry." You feel sorry you are up there, sorry they have to listen to you, sorry that it is not "perfect Lisa" that they hearing from. We often apologize when we are asked to share our ideas, or when giving a presentation. The apology in this setting comes when we feel we are not prepared or not smart enough and inadequate. A common phrase people think is, "I'm not smart enough. _________ is smarter than I am." Instead of focusing so much on yourself, and your shortcomings, turn the focus to others. Stop giving in to your fear of what other people think and start seeing other people.

Replace with "You are going to learn..." or any other phrase that includes recognizing another person. Take away the "I." 3. "Sorry it's not much"
You go to the store and spend hours searching shelves, rows, and racks, for the right gift. After carefully selecting the perfect present, you wrap it with care, even down to placing on detailed embellishments. When you arrive at the party you take your precious gift, hand it to someone you care about and say, "Sorry, it's not much." Why, when people put so much time and effort into finding the perfect gift we still feel a need to apologize for it? In case they don't like it, think that we chose incorrectly, or judge that we didn't spend enough money we give ourselves an outlet to protect ourselves. Remember the impacts of kindness on the lives of others and let that give you strength to stop apologizing. From the simple to the well thought out, the next time you share a gift with someone remember what a gift is. It in itself is an act of kindness. It is enough. You are enough. If a person is not accepting of your gift, then that other person is the one with the problem and not you. Stop second guessing yourself and start remembering the power of your compassion.

Replace with "I was thinking of you"
Karen Eddington is a Self-Worth Analyst and has spent over ten years researching women and teens. She is the author of Today, I Live and directs many community outreach programs on self-esteem. For more information you can go to