A Future for Tomorrow: Their Weakness

Saturday, August 8, 2009

Their Weakness

Do you have a specific person in your life that has judged or criticized you? Are they someone constant and important in your life? Maybe a spouse or parent?

Do you feel pressure to shape your behavior to mold to what they think is acceptable?
This person might be wonderful in all other aspects, but they have a weakness to judge in this area and it causes you pain.

I’m going to share one of the most powerful words of council I received.

But first I need you to picture the behavior and examine what you believe about it.
I’m going to use the example of food and weight because it seems to be the most prevalent and something I can relate to.
What is the believe surrounding eating certain foods or being overweight imposed on you by your loved one?
Do you feel that they wont love you if you are too heavy? Do you feel guilty when you eat a certain food around them, because they don’t approve of it? Is there something really "sinful" about the food or amount?
Do you think this person will be disappointed in you if gain weight or not loss weight?
(Place your issue into this type of analyse.)

Now I want you to review what is true. What is right?
Food shouldn't hold that much power, it is only a substance.
Your value and worth doesn’t change when the scale's number does. Does Heavenly Father love you less when you eat ice cream? Does He value you less when you are a heavier weight? Does Heavenly Father want you to feel guilty for eating?

The second set of believes are eternal truth so the other believes are wrong or even sinful to a degree because it is contrary to what is God’s truth.

Now here is the council that helped change my life:

WHY LIVE YOUR LIFE TO SOMEONE ELSE’S WEAKNESS OR THEIR “SINFUL, FLAWED BELIEVE?

Again,

WHY LIVE YOUR LIFE TO SOMEONE ELSE’S WEAKNESS?

I decided I wasn’t going to. That I wasn’t going to put this person before Heavenly Father and His truth, by living to this person’s flawed believe. I want to live to what is true and place value on Heavenly Father’s truth. I will no longer live to conform my life to follow someone else’s weakness.

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Cat said...: I can really relate to this, Haley. Thanks!

Sorry I haven't been by for a while. Life has been keeping me away from my computer. I just wanted to stop by and let you know that I still care!!

How are you feeling these days?

I started a new blog with design tips if you want to check it out, I know you have asked me questions about some of the stuff before.

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Love, Cat; August 8, 2009 at 3:17 PM
Danyelle Ferguson said...: I could have used this about four months ago. Thank you for the excellent article, Haley.; September 12, 2009 at 10:50 AM

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