This post is about an e-mail I received from my good friend Karen Eddington. She is the founder of the Cauliflower Retreat which I have mentioned several times. You also can get on her mailing list to get these great self-esteem tips, updates, and online training content. Just go to their home page http://www.selfworthretreat.com/ website (also cauliflowerretreat.com or org)
"It is common theme I hear over and over. "My daughter is struggling with self-esteem. What can I do?" "My students are so worried about fitting in, how can I get through to them?" "I have a friend who is really struggling to find confidence. Is there something I can do to help her?" "I don't even know who I am anymore."
After ten years of researching these issues, doing outreach work across the state of Utah, and presenting on self-worth topics on a national level, I have started to see some common solutions that need to be made more available as a prevention medium. Here are some quick examples how we can think and act more positively about self-worth:
Recognize there is a principle of choice, accountability, and action when it comes to developing self-confidence.
Cauliflower Retreat Self-Worth Outreach Center Program Found"
You also can get on their mailing list for the online training content. Just go to their home page http://www.selfworthretreat.com/ website (also cauliflowerretreat.com or org)
my thoughts on how to help your daughters have good self-esteem-- start with yourself. Emulate what it means to love yourself and have a good self-esteem. Also NEVER let her hear you put yourself down. Not only does she see the same traits that you are putting down in herself but she learns how to act as a woman from you.
If you have a habit of putting yourself down in front of your children, stop. My challenge is to catch yourself and stop the words, sighs, and other self-deprecating expressions in front of your daughters.
Next step is to stop them in your own mind and replace them with a positive thoughts about yourself.
Incorporate what Karen mentioned about there being choice behind having a good self-esteem. CHOOSE to improve your own perception of yourself.